Cuckoldry Is Like a Drug

"Are hotwifing and cuckoldry different?"

I asked this question a few weeks back. The question was actually reposted from David Ley's blog. It received some insightful answers. JamieLin provided a particularly interesting take on cuckoldry that I can relate to, equating cuckoldry with a drug. Here's his take:

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I experienced [cuckoldry] in a non-marital relationship. In fact, she had at least TWO cucks. I was one. Her fiance the other. Did she have more? Did she have bulls?

Sexual denial ratchets it that much tighter. I was denied. I performed a lot of oral sex and was allowed to masturbate to completion in her presence. I did everything I could to make myself believe he wasn't getting laid either.

Somehow, at the school where we met, she'd cultivated the reputation as a virgin. Trust me, I was a motivated believer!

She told me it was true love. She just needed "time to work it out." It was so "complicated." It all seems believable when you surprise your woman at the train station and her fiance has too, you shake his hand then leave with her.

Of course when you can't reach her because they're going to the wedding planner, or meeting the contractor for their condo, or on a date, the minutes drag by, and you'll surely go mad. So you masturbate once more to temporarily ease the pain.

When I was "winning," it was the most intense four months of my life. I was a living nerve. I've never done smack, but I'm sure it's the same experience. The ecstasy with her, the suffering without. When I realized I was "losing," it was the most horrible withdrawal for six months. Like methadone, I got dribs and drabs, but never my fix. Then they married, and it still hurt for another year or two.

Fifteen years later I'm still looking for that drug, and it's driving me to more and more extreme behavior searching. Meditating on it, I can still induce sort of a flashback, and I'm very calm. There's great comfort in her returning and taking away the terror that she's gone forever.

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JamieLin is a sometimes pervy, often kinky, occasionally swishy cross-dressing poof, submissive-wishing cuckold wannabe with non-diagnosed but quite likely mild manic-depression!

Calling All Cuckold Couples & Some Sissy Samples

David Ley has officially asked for 3-4 cuckold couples, preferably with commercial sites, to star in a cable reality series about the lifestyle. Any takers?

And so I don't keep you wanting more, here's a shot from a Cuckold Me Now set. This HotWife can't help but taunt her sissy cuckold with her lover's much-bigger cock.

What caption would you write for this picture? What would this HotWife be saying to her cuck?


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Share Your Lifestyle on Film

David Ley is the author of an upcoming book called, "Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them."

From what I've read on David's blog, the focus of his book is mostly oriented toward the HotWife. However, cuckoldry also plays a strong role in the book.

David recognizes the wide variety of expression that occurs within the world of cuckoldry. He recently posted about the possibility of filming a documentary about the cuckolding/HotWife lifestyle and is asking for volunteers to appear in it.

Interested?

Does Modern Cuckoldry Require Consent?

Author David J. Ley (of the soon to be published "Insatiable Wives") recently posted an article about how Megan Fox and her boyfriend Brian Austin Green have an arrangement.

Now normally when you hear that expression, you think open marriage. (Ley has an interesting take on that term, too). However, Fox apparently has free rein to play with whoever she wants, while her man must remain monogamous.

Megan Fox Disdains Most Men
Megan Fox has voiced a lot of negativity in regards to men and the way they lust over sexy women. She's been cited as calling the fanboys who lust after her "pathetic."

This statement rubbed me the wrong way because those fanboys are wholly responsible for escalating her popularity. It confuses me in the same way it confuses me as to why the Sex Pistols or Green Day got so popular despite the way they degraded their audiences.

Anyhow, as I commented on Ley's post about Fox and Green's arrangement, I started to write how it's cool if this was a mutual arrangement. If Green truly wanted this one-sided arrangement that's just dandy. I mean, it's cuckoldry hit the mainstream, right?

But if she dictated the way things were to be, then it doesn't qualify as a modern form of cuckoldry... or does it?

Historical Cuckoldry vs. Modern Cuckoldry
The definition of a cuckold is a married man whose wife is unfaithful. Now in terms of modern associations as they relate to "open marriages," faithful doesn't necessarily mean monogamous. However, in the historical context, unfaithful meant non-monogamous (or cheating).

Sometimes the husband knew about his wife's indiscretions but turned a blind eye to the mocking looks and jokes behind his back. Perhaps one could view this as a form of consent, but I see it more as blissful ignorance.

Historically speaking, the husband did not consent to let his wife fuck other men.

Today, cuckoldry has become a sexual preference or fetish. Some men will use cuckoldry as a way to better cope with his wife's already existing infidelity. Most of the time, though, the husband is just plain turned on by the thought of his wife with other men.

Nowadays, husbands not only consent to let his wife fuck other men, he practically begs her to do so.

"Cuckolds" in the News
The media predominately uses the term "cuckold" in a derogatory manner, using the word in the traditional sense. In particular, they refer to men raising children who are not from their seed as cuckolds.

From the outside looking in, cuckoldry doesn't require consent. In fact, consent would move cuckoldry into some completely different realm... at least from the media's viewpoint.

Negotiating Cuckoldry
Most couples who enter cuckoldry do so in much the same way as those who enter swinging do. There is a lot of talking that takes place. The wife generally doesn't want to screw around on her husband. And when it comes to degrading him in some of the more cruel expressions of cuckoldry, well, that's out of the question for most wives.

That said, a husband almost always has to press the fact that he's more than okay with his wife getting other men; nothing would make him happier.

Is Green in a Cuckold or HotWife Relationship?
After reading Megan Fox's generally loathing comments about men and their sexuality, I'm prone to believe she gave her man an ultimatum.

I'm going to fuck other dudes, but you will stay faithful to me. If you don't like that, there's the door.

After all, it's not as though Fox doesn't have a whole line of men just waiting for their shot at the prize.

If Fox gave Green this ultimatum, and he accepted it out of desperation, then he is a historical cuckold. Where's the fun in that? If, however, he consented to the arrangement because it works for him, then I can respect this much more.

What do you think?
Does modern cuckoldry as a sexual preference require consent from the husband/boyfriend?

"Are hotwifing and cuckoldry different?"

David J. Ley wants to know. Soon to release his book Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, David recently asked if he was wrong in lumping together hotwifing and cuckoldry. What do you think? Let David know here.

What do I think?
Yes and no. I know, I know. What a cop out, huh?
Well, here's why they are different.:

• Hotwifing is focused on the wife getting her freak on with whoever the hell she wants.
  
• Cuckoldry in, as David puts it, the BDSM style involves a high degree of husband humiliation.

Why are they the same?
They aren't actually the same at all. It's only society's dominant viewpoint regarding unfaithful spouses that makes them the same.

Cuckoldry is the umbrella because it represents the ultimate humiliation of a married male. To most in our society, the act of infidelity by a spouse is physically revolting. No matter how consenting the hotwife's husband feels, society will generally view him as a cuckold.

For another well-thought out response to this question, I highly recommend you read the related post over at Watching My Wife.

Blond HotWife Lets Cuckold Watch

This blond HotWife is so appreciative of her husband's buddy's willingness to fuck her without any guilt or hesitation that she lets her cuckold watch.


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Don't Act Surprised When Your Wife Cheats, Cuck!

All men secretly desire their wives to cheat on them. It proves that they like to fuck more than they let on. Tiffany Mynx is just such a wife. When her husband catches her getting fingercuffed by a couple of young studs, she only has scorn for her betrayed spouse.


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Sissified Cuckold Watches Wife Ride a Dick

Dressed in pink frills, leashed and shaved, this sissified husband takes his role as the watching and servicing cuckold seriously.


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Sissy Cuck Licks HotWife while Getting Fucked

Getting a little more intense here, today. In this video, a sissified cuckold is denied access to his HotWife as he is forced to watch her fuck her Bull.

The thing that makes me chuckle about this video is when she tells him he can't fuck her because of his pathetically small dick. As she slaps his hard-on, I can't help but notice that it's pretty damn big and only about an inch smaller than the other dude's.


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Master Will Abuse Me, Cuck

There are many reasons that men willingly become a cuckold. One is to know that there wives will be not only fucked by other men, but owned by another man. Nothing says I have no respect for you to a cuckold like a Bull who breaks his wife.


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Cuckold Practices Sucking Dick with HotWife

When it comes to servicing your wife's lover, you better get some dick-sucking skills. This HotWife has the right idea, as she slips on a strap-on and puts her cuckold on his knees.


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Em and Lo Poll: What do you call a female cuckold?

With all the recent attention politician's wifes have received over the past couple years, Em and Lo have raised an interesting question: "What do you call a female cuckold?" You can write your response to this poll here.

As the original definition of a cuckold is a man whose wife is unfaithful, what would the inverse be? Now, I'm not sure if Sanford's wife could be called a cuckold, as she actually seemed to know where and what he was up to. Then again, that seems to be the modern cuckolding paradigm.

Sure, she says she told him to call it off. But for all we know, the Sanfords could have had an "arrangement." Which leads me to this question...

What differentiates an open marriage from a cuckold marriage? Is an open marriage evenly yoked with both partners allowed to get action, while a cuckold marriage is lopsided? And if the woman is the one denied another partner while the man gets his own side action, is it still considered a cuckold relationship or something else?

Just some questions to ponder in your pursuit of the widely varied cuckold lifestyle.

Cuckold Finds Out What Doggie Style Feels Like

There's a whole lot of chatter on the web about what would make a man want to be cuckolded. After all, the term originally applied lack of consent and humiliation.

These days, cuckoldry is more often a choice than the result of an unfaithful wife. One of the reasons thrown out as to why a guy would want to be cuckolded is that they have a latent homosexual drive. I don't really agree that this is the case most of the time, but in the case of the guy depicted below, getting fucked by dick is obviously high on his list of experiences.

"...very soon you will feel just like I do when my lovers fuck me from behind."


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Your Cuckold Will Wait!

Today's Cuckold Caption speaks loudest to those cuckold couples who relish in orgasm denial. Are you a cuckold who is forced into abstinence? If so, tell us how long you've gone without cumming.


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Cuckold in a Speedo and a Chastity Belt

And rounding out our series featuring this luscious dark-haired brown-eyed HotWife is this Cuckold Caption. She declares that nothing quite says pathetic loser like a cuckold on the beach wearing a speedo and a chastity belt.


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